This post is going to be a little different. I wanted somewhere to express my words and have them all out in one place. I wasn’t sure if it was suitable but after I had a good friend review it beforehand, she really encouraged me to post it. (Thank you my love!)

I recently wrote a 3000 word essay about ‘The Fashioned Body’ and how we may or may not have the choice to design and create our own bodies. I was particularly interested in this topic and found myself enjoying the readings each week. I also did quite well on the essay as I was genuinely curious and interested in the topic at hand, something that rarely happens with me. And it got me thinking… Do we really have a choice in the way we present our bodies?

Nowadays, within our society, we are expected to follow certain ideals and norms presented to us through social media, celebrity culture and videos plastered all over the internet. Our youths are spending a lot more time on the internet and have this means to information about these certain ideals very readily available to them. It’s scary isn’t it? The norms we’re being shown and expected to conform to. These celebrities and social media posts, which have clearly been airbrushed and photoshopped and filtered, are influencing us all on how we believe we should look like or aspire to. We disregard our own judgements, our own beliefs because of what we see. We are presented with this unattainable imagery, which I speak for myself here, has lowered my self-confidence because I will never and could never look like the images splayed on magazine shoots and the Instagram explore page.

This celebrity culture builds up a following. We regulate and discipline our bodies and ‘design’ ourselves to fit into today’s society. Am I slim enough? Have I got curves like her? Do my muscles look like his? Am I pretty enough? Is my makeup the same as that Instagram models? Why is my skin not as clear as hers? It’s ridiculous. Why and how have we let society get to where it’s at today. To determine what is beautiful? What is acceptable?

We should all accept each other for who we are and who we choose to be. I strongly believe everyone is beautiful in their own way, we all have imperfect flaws that we should embrace and praise one another for. No two people are the same! There is no real definition of ‘pretty.’ Accept one another’s’ differences, don’t criticise or judge someone because they are different to you, embrace it. If we spent less time pointing out peoples flaws and spent more time complimenting others, the world would truly be a happier place. Or maybe I’d like to believe that and I’m just wishful thinking… All I know is I for one, from here on out will try to take this on board. Offer your support to someone, compliment someone, ask how someone’s day is going, smile at someone as you pass them by. It’s the little things in life that really do make the days brighter.

I also want to mention, before anyone comes at me saying that social media has its benefits and promotes positivity too. Yes, I know this but every story has two sides, I have chosen to write about one aspect that was consuming my thoughts but thank you for the reminder. We can all aim to be the positive sides of the story. (Wow so so cheesy)

Here I decided to add a couple of pictures of my happy place… Thailand! I visited in the summer of ’17 (Posts to come about my travels if requested!) and I didn’t want this post to be purely just text.

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Karon Beach, Phuket. 14/07/17
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Koh Phi Phi Viewpoint. 20/07/17
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(Yes I love taking pictures of the sea… Deal with it.) Ao Nang, Krabi. 25/07/17

“When you focus on the good, the good gets better”

Fill your moments with happiness. Until next time…

Posted by:Sharmin Afsana

I'm a 21 y/o Fashion Design student, born and raised in London. I'm full of wanderlust and like all things food, makeup and fashion related. Here are just a few moments of my life.

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